How I Cope.

We all have ways to cope with struggles and sadness and infertility is sure something I need to cope with. I have many coping mechanism that I use to keep myself sane, some are healthy...some not so much. Am I perfect at it? HELL NO. But at least I've found someways to get me through. Here are some of the ways that I cope:

• Humor/Self Depreciation: I love laughing, I especially love laughing at myself. When I am going through something sad or awkward I tend to move on by making jokes about it or myself. A motto I use a lot is "if you don't laugh then you'd cry"

• Alcohol: I love a good drink. I have an alcoholic father so probably not my healthiest coping mechanism but it sure does the trick. I like to say it's a massage for my brain, it helps loosen up all the things that have made me anxious and tense.

• Meditation: I started meditating before bed when I found out I could get the Calm App for free being a teacher. It's really helped me deal with the stress of the day before bed and lets me get to sleep a little faster.

• Coffee: Nothings more comforting than a nice hot cup of coffee. It just makes me calm, warm, happy and full of energy to face the day whatever it holds.

• Changing my Appearance: Whenever I'm going through something super bad or traumatic, I have this need to change what I look like. I need something drastic to feel like someone else. My big go to's are dying/cutting my hair and getting tattoos. It's cathartic to leave who I was behind.

• Music: Listening to music is therapy for me. Finding the right song to reflect the feelings I'm having, there's nothing better. I even have a tattoo to my love of music. "Music's the only thing that makes sense anymore, play it loud enough, it keeps the demons at bay."

• Writing: This blog has really helped me get some of my emotions out. Being able to get some of these thoughts out of my head has let me be able to let them go faster.

• Food: When I'm emotional, there's nothing better than a good snack to give me comfort. In particular, cheese is my favorite and most satisfying.

• Sleep: sleeping is my favorite past time. There's nothing better than a nice long depression nap to avoid your problems and potentially leave you refreshed