This Will Be Our Year... Took A Long Time To Come

2022 was the biggest year of my life. It was hard, it was sad, it was a challenge but it was also amazing and joyous and perfect.

After some of the most trying and emotional years of my life, we decided to start our year by trying IVF to finally get the family we had been dreaming of. It was physically and mentally one of the hardest things I have ever done but thankfully it provided us with 4 perfect embryos. And we absolutely so lucky that our very first transfer resulted in a successful pregnancy that led to our beautiful baby girl born in October. Finally making us a family of three. (if you want more detail on the journey there are plenty of blog posts for you to peruse).

So what have I learned when reflecting on this year? Number one lesson is definitely that you have to focus on what you or your family needs because no one else will. If you don't worry about you and yours, you will get sucked in to others problems, others negativity and potentially the trap of comparing yourself to others and what they have. Second, you can do anything for what's important to you. You are strong enough, you are smart enough and you can do it....or at least become who you need to be to do it. Third, when you go through struggles, it becomes very apparent very fast, who you are important to and who are just superficial relationships. I spent a lot of time isolating for my own mental health and I quickly found out who could stand by me through it. Lastly, life is so short and hard, enjoy every success and every moment of joy you can. Be grateful for what you have been given.

Looking forward to 2023, I plan on being grateful every day for how lucky we are to have our daughter. I know others might not call us luck for our hard our journey is but I know how some never get as far as we did and I am thankful for that and for our daughter every day. She will never know one day without knowing how special and how loved she is. I also plan on being good to me and I don't mean in an obnoxious self centered way, I mean in a confidence and self love way. I am strong, I am smart and I want my daughter to never fall into the trap of self hatred that I was in for so long so I would like to start by being a better role model for her.

With all of that being said, I am going to take a step back from this blog so that I can keep it purely about my fertility journey but don't worry....we plan on coming back for a round 2.