A Shoulder To Lean On

Infertility is so very lonely. Good people try to empathize, and I have a lot of friends who do and I love them for it but you really can't fully understand until you go through it. I am so very lucky to have a super close friend who went through it. She helps me work through my feelings and reassures me that I am not going insane, and for that, I am forever grateful.

Kristine and I actually started talking through facebook the summer before Freshman Year of college through an accepted students facebook group in 2007. We ended up living on the same hallway that year and have been friends ever since. We had many adventures in our freshman dorm, going to emo shows, trying on prom dresses for fun and many other good times. We have supported each other through dumb boys, losing friends and all of life's other milestones.

When Kristine was trying to have her first child, I was that empathetic friend. I tried so hard to hear her and be there for her, but now I know I didn't know shit about what this feels like. Here we are, 13 years after we first started talking and it's like life pushed us together for a reason. We both are infertile, we both have PCOS and now I may also have endometriosis like her as well. Her support during this journey is priceless and now I get all the pain and heartache she was feeling.

We joke about how someone we knew freshman year use to say that if you can make it 7 years friends with someone you become lifers but I think our journeys through infertility that really solidified our friendship, even from 12 hours away, for good.